Do you find that you’re always disappointed with yourself?
Do you live with shame because you think you’re just not good enough?
Do you beat yourself up over failures?
Have you ever given yourself time to just breathe?
In this society that we live in that regularly sends us the message that we should be perfect, that we aren’t good enough, that we should be achieving more – And so… we forget to breathe, look around and see how amazing it is to be alive. We become so disappointed with ourselves because we can’t seem to reach society’s standards and then we end up not being good enough even to ourselves.
Self-criticism leaves us helpless and troubled – so let us counter act self-criticism with self-compassion, which will then lead us to healing, learning, empowering ourselves and in creating inner strength.
Self-compassion means treating ourselves as we would our closest friend. Rather than judging or adding to our friend’s hopelessness, we listen to our friend with empathy and understanding and we encourage them to remember that everyone makes mistakes, mistakes are okay, and that we always learn from mistakes which is what really makes us better and stronger; we should be our own best friend.
In practicing self-compassion, we do not use judgment in our self or others. In practicing self-compassion, we value ourselves because we know that we (ourselves) deserve care, kindness and love as much as anyone else from.
“Your mind will always believe everything you tell it. Feed it faith. Feed it truth. Feed it love.”
I compiled a couple of posts from the internet to help you during the times that you feel disappointed with yourself.
“Stop regretting the past. Stop dwelling on all the chances you wish you took and the moments you wish you kept quiet. All the first kisses that you were too afraid to lean into, all of the 5 seconds of no-fear you’ve never had. For whatever reason, you made the choices you made and they’ve shaped you into who you are today. You did what you thought was right. You did what you had to do to make it to where you are today. Don’t look back in sorrow. Do not lament. Simply let it be and look forward into your infinite future. You are doing so great.” -@cestlaviemacheriee on instagram
It doesn’t matter if it’s a big achievement/milestone or a small one like being able to run 2 minutes longer today or being able to reach further on the mat when you’re practicing yoga. It’s still something to be proud of and it’s still something to be appreciated and celebrated. Send yourself loving thoughts.
Practice being grateful for the small things, the big things and everything in between. It helps shift your perspective and makes you appreciate everything you have within you and around you.
Let’s practice being kind to ourselves. Let’s choose love, always.
More posts to inspire: